If You can’t Stop Doing these 10 Things, You’re Not Ready to Get Married
Your parents are pestering you to get married, most of your friends have got married. You wonder whether you are ready to tie the nuptial knot. Will you be able to handle more responsibilities? Is it too early? Too late?
Here are the list of those 10 things:
- You are not sure about sharing a life with your partner
The person whom you are about to get married to could be someone your parents have chosen for you or it could be someone you fell in love with. Marriage is a big decision and it involves spending and sharing your entire life with one person. You may feel that you are not sufficiently compatible with your partner or some other reason that makes you believe you are that person is not the right one for you. [ Check out: 25 Things Guys Do That Girls Actually Love and Hate ]
- You don’t trust your partner
Your life partner should be someone whom you trust implicitly. You should not have any reservations or doubt about your partner. If you have trust issues, then you should resolve them first and get married. Talk to your partner about your concerns and the things that bother you. If your partner manages to put all your doubts at rest, then you can be sure of getting married to that person. If that doesn’t happen, wait for the right person to come along.
- You don’t get along well your future in-laws
After getting married to a person, you become a part of his/her family. His/ her family becomes your family and vice-versa. If you have some differences with your in-laws, try to work on those and settle all your differences before you get married. There might be a conflict of interest or clash of ideologies. Whatever the case may be, wait for things to get sorted before you take the plunge. Remember, things will get only worse after marriage. [ Also read: 7 Best Ways To Easily Impress Girls ]
- You don’t like sharing
You are very possessive about your belongings and do not like sharing anything that you own. When you shudder at the thought of somebody laying his hands on your stuff, how will you share a life with a person? Sharing a life also means making compromises and calls for certain sacrifices. After getting married, you might have to let go of some things dear to you and make way for a few things that your partner brings along.
- You are commitment phobic
You are scared to commitments. You don’t make promises as you fear you won’t be able to fulfill them. A marriage cannot last without commitment. You have to make certain commitments and honor them. If you feel you won’t be able to live up to any commitment, then steer clear of marriage. [ Read: Commitment Maniac: Signs To Tell For Sure]
- You are a loner
You are someone who does not share any aspect of his life even with his closest friends. You remain detached from your surroundings and are happy being alone. After marriage, your spouse will expect you to spend some time with him/ her and give him/her the required attention. If you fail to do that and remain aloof, the marriage won’t last long.
- You are a narcissist
How will a person, who loves himself more than anything or anyone in the world, keep his/her spouse happy? If you are a narcissist, you would your marriage, which requires commitment, sacrifice and love, will stand the test of time? Unless you bring out some changes in yourself and stop being selfish, stay away from marriage. [ Read: 12 Signs You’re Being Selfish in the Relationship]
- You want to remain a free bird
You do things at your own will and are not hate to be bound by any responsibilities, obligations and liabilities. With marriage come responsibilities and responsibilities are bound to limit you in certain ways and curb your freedom. If you can’t let anyone dictate certain choices and actions in your life, then you are not ready for a long term alliance.
- You lie
You are not honest with your partner and feel the need to lie about certain things. Whether your lies have some consequences or not, there is nothing that justifies your action. If you can’t live up to the faith that your partner has entrusted you with, why do you want to get married and hurt her? You might lie because you are not comfortable talking to your partner about certain things. Whatever the reason, being dishonest with your partner is a strong indication that you should not get in to it right now. [ Read here: Read Why We Should Not Force Love And Give It Time ]
- You want to remain single
Nobody, except you, should have a say in whether you should get married or not. It’s your prerogative and nobody has a right to question your decision. If you think you are not ready for marriage and want some more time, then it’s perfectly fine. Equally fine would be your decision to stay unmarried all your life. Marriage is serious business and if you don’t want o get married for some reason it’s completely alright.
A lot of people get into marriages because of pressures and end up getting divorced. Get married only if you are sure about it and not because somebody asks or forces you to. It’s your life and nobody else has a say in it.