5 Reasons Why Promises are NOT Meant to be Broken
Every little thing in the world has a guarantee or paperwork attached to it. Be it school results, graduation degrees, property papers, marriage certificates. Heck we even get receipts for the small day to day purchases we make. When everything materialistic in the world is accountable, what about words or feelings? Aren’t they too huge in front of these small materialistic possessions? Do they mean nothing? Remember any broken bonds?[ Read: True story of love, promises and search ]
Everything related to emotions is vague and unaccountable as opposed to everything else. So does that mean people can break their promises and crush others for their own selfish motives? Can people sign on a stamp paper that they will keep their word? It is only by their words or promises that people believe each other in this world. Can you imagine a world where nobody trust one another? Or where feelings weren’t concerned?
While the whole world talks about how promises are meant to be broken and rules never last, we believe that promises are meant to be honored!
And here is why:
- They are ‘your’ words
Promises made, are your words to someone special. That you would not smoke again, wouldn’t ever drink and drive, will never cheat on your partner, or splurge your money somewhere. Breaking your promises means, you do not value your words. Don’t make someone doubt their belief on you. We often hear that one should be a man of his words. A person who doesn’t value his own words is often avoided by most others, be it friends or colleagues. [ Read: I Promise I Won’t Leave You, If You Don’t Leave Me
- Why promise in the first place?
Remember that, you promised because it meant something to you and the other person as well. If you aren’t serious about pursuing it for somebody, don’t promise them that. It raises expectations and you owe them a genuine explanation if it is broken. It is not ‘cool’ to break someone’s heart and then quote that ‘promises are meant to be broken, my dear’. Realize that your words are the reason why the person is with you in the first place.
- They are a verbal pact between two people
Promises can be about something big or something really small. But remember that it is a verbal pact between two people, which if broken, can cause damage to the relationship in several ways. Just like wedding vows, promises are vows which are meant to be honored. Just because no one else knows about it or there aren’t any written proofs for it, doesn’t mean it won’t cause much damage. It can shake a person’s trust in you. [ Read: He Promised Me to Never Leave Me – True Story of My Own Life ]
- You might steal other’s faith over promises
Just by breaking a promise, you are affecting the others person’s trust. Later in life, that person might not believe someone else’s words, even if they actually meant it. You are creating a traumatic world for them where ‘promises are meant to be broken’. Parents always promise their children to get them the toy they want, if they secure an A grade or win the race. What if the child did his part and the parents didn’t get him anything? The child would throw tantrums or never believe his parents again. The same thing happens with adults too. People will lose their trust over you.
- Because they are special
Remember why you promised something in the first place? The person is special enough for you to give them your word. Promises give a sense of security and comfort to a person. If you break it, it just seems really foolish for them to have believed you all this while. Just remember that they are worth the effort. Keep your word, and make people believe that promises are not meant to be broken. [ Read: Do You Believe In Love Or Have You Given Up On It? ]
Have you ever broken a promise and regretted it? Share your experiences with us.