16 Bad Habits That Can Hurt Your Relationship
You love you partner and you feel your relationship is right out a fairy tale book. That said you may have some tendencies that will take a U-turn on this happy highway!
Each relationship is unique, yet everyone’s behaviour is a relationship is quite similar. You might be unaware of your habits, but you tend to do silly things that upset your partner and put your relationship on line. Have a look at a list of bad habits that can hurt your relationship and how you can amend your ways.
- Too clingy
You as well as your partner can feel all the love you hold in your heart, but that does not give you the permit to be fluttering around him/her 24×7. When you start being clingy and plan everything together, your partner is going to get fed up of you sooner than he/she thought! [ Read: 13 Clingy Girlfriend Traits You Must Avoid ]
- Trying to bring improvement
We all want the best for our partner! You may have observed some aspects in your partner which need improvement. However, keep your instructions in check – avoid telling him/her what to do, how to do all the time. Respect his/her intelligence and let him/her be.
- Not talking out fights
Fights are a part and parcel of every relationship, so learn to deal with them. If you are someone who is always up for fighting, but you never come forward when it is time to sort the fight out, your relationship will be affected adversely. So fight, but also close the chapter so that you can move on from there. [ Read: 6 Ways To End Fights And Conflicts Quickly ]
- Criticizing the family
Talking bad about the family means pressing the danger button! You may find his sister arrogant, or her brother cocky; but remember that these are blood relations and criticizing these people have the capacity to break your relationship.
- Avoiding fights
It is healthy to fight; you need to fight if you are in love! You may have heard of couple proudly telling you that they have not fought in two or three years – that does not deserve any applause. If you haven’t fought, it means you are not being honest about your feelings and opinions. [ Read: 16 Abusive Relationship Signs You Need to Reconsider! ]
Are you a suspicious person? If you feel like your partner is cheating on you, you will end up stalking him/her, checking the phone regularly and so on. Why do you want to fall to such low standards? If you love your partner, have trust in him/her and faith in your love!
- Keeping score
In romance, you cannot maintain a diary and count the number of things each one of you has done. For example, if you say that you have paid for two dinners and expect your partner to equal that, you are just behaving petty; or you count the number of times you have been out with his friends and complain that he hasn’t come out with your bunch of people even once, you partner is going to get ticked off. [ Read: 13 Things That Emasculates Your Man ]
A relationship cannot be based on lies! If you think you are going to get away with lying even about the silliest of things like who you met for lunch, you will lose the trust of your partner and the relationship will just go down from there on. Small or big, black or white – a lie is a lie!
Comparing your ex with your current is a recipe for disaster! Don’t think about how your previous relationship was so much more exciting than your present, or how your ex-partner was more affectionate. Such thoughts will bring negativity to your relationship, and if you voice your comparisons, your partner will walk away heartbroken. [ Read: 9 Ways to Tell if Your Guy Wants to Marry You ]
Avoid the nasty eyes of jealousy to wander around your relationship! Being possessive about your partner is okay, but if you are burning with jealousy when you see him talking to the opposite sex, or dislike a fond relationship he shares with his buddies – you’ve got a problem! Your jealous nature will just dig a black hole in your romance!
- Holding grudges
Your partner hurt your feelings by ignoring you at a party the other night, so the next time you are out in a group you behave the same way. Isn’t that childish? At the end of the day you love him/her and cherish your relationship so you must not forget to forgive. [ Read: 13 Relationship Mistakes New Couples Make All the Time! ]
- Creating scenes in public
Arguing in public or picking up a fight when you are surrounded by people reflects badly on you and your partner! Your partner will be insulted by your annoying behaviour of creating scenes and outsiders will lose all respect for you. All differences should be discussed in private; so if you do not like something he/she has done, wait till you go inside your room
- Nagging all the time
Most girls have a terrible habit of nagging their boyfriends – be it speaking over the phone, the amount of time you spend with each other, relation with other girls, etc. Nagging is downright irritating and if you continue to nag, it won’t be too long till you will find yourself all alone. [ Read: 10 Ways To Bring Back The Lost Spark In Your Relationship ]
How do you react to someone complaining about your habits? Not too well, right. Whether you are happy or unhappy, avoid voicing it out all the time. Learn to be accommodating and smile in any situation. Pick the times to complain – a time when you really need to prove a point to your partner.
- Being selfish
Loving someone means giving them your all and caring for them as if they were you! So you cannot be thinking only about your benefits and your happiness. The joy of being with someone is putting a smile on his/her face by doing what he/she likes. So quit thinking about yourself! [ Read: 12 Signs You’re Being Selfish in the Relationship ]
- Teasing to the limit
We all love you fool around with our lover – whether it is teasing her about her fat or making fun of his sense of humour or pulling each other’s leg about smartness. However, when this teasing crosses its line and you make a laughing stock of your partner in public, you are going home to an angry lover. So keep jokes private and have a good laugh when you are alone.
Just because you love your partner and he/she loves you, you cannot take things for granted. The opposite person has feelings and those feelings don’t run according to your whims and fancies. So if you truly love the person, take care of the small actions and reactions to build a happy and strong future!